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10 Top Tips: How to Study and be a Mother Working

Just before having my second child I decided and discussed with my family to study a doctorate. My husband chuckled in his typical danish humour 'you never stop wanting to learn' and I rebutted 'is that a bad thing.' 5 years later and it was the best thing I did for many reasons. Not least I found from my passion a way to help other mothers, and my 'why' was to give more women time in their day.

If you are a busy mother working and you are making the choice of can I? Shall I? You may find my tips and learnings useful.

1. Assess if it’s right for you and your family?

a. Sacrifice

• Ask yourself what you want to do and why you want to do it? In that process challenge yourself really why, and are there other ways to get there? An academic qualification may not be the only way to achieve your goal. Then if it is what you want, are you willing to give up your time when the children go to bed? Are you willing to give up some of your time with your partner? Is it worth it? Dependent on your answer, it may be that it is not the right time for you to study.

b. Passion (1)

• Are you passionate about it? If you are not – do not do it. Life is too short to waste time on the things that we are not passionate about.

c. Routine

• Do you have a routine that would enable you to study?

• Do you have structured sleep times that you can guarantee regular time to study?

• Do you know on the whole that your kids sleep well? So that you have energy to focus.

• Do you have regular travel times on public transport that facilitate regular reading and or study time? Or do you have any other time that is not being utilised?

If the answer is yes to the first two points, then you can organise the time resources necessary. The final bullet is a bonus. It may not be how other students might work, but 2-3 hours a night adds up to 14 – 21 hours a week.

2. Initial Investigation

• Investigate what possible courses are available that provide different options: location near home, online, opportunity to defer, mixture of assignments and exam, the languages you can take it in, past students outcomes/ successes (call the course supervisor or dean), resources and cost. Analyse and prioritise the option/s that you can then discuss with your support framework - family.

3. Support framework

• Ask the same questions about sacrifice to your family: partner and kids, and are they willing to support you? It has to be a joint decision because if not the times when you need to have your head down to get an assignment finished, and you are unavailable to them could lead to resentment.

• Is there anything that you can add to support you? Can grandparents help? Can you afford outside help: a babysitter, au pair or nanny? Think these things through because there is a lot of time involved.

4. Cost

• It may not be cheap! There can be scholarships available but be realistic because parenthood is also not cheap. Research funds and make a budget plan accordingly.

If you are willing to make the sacrifice, identified that there is a routine that would facilitate study and support. Then move on to the next stage ‘Design’

5. Design 'a way of working' into your life that will make you successful?

a. Where

• Pick the physical or virtual location to study that makes sense to you. I choose to study in the city that I now reside. I sometimes travel with my job, so as a family it would be an extra burden to go away to university weekends. There are 11 compact weekends in total, but each one I am home for breakfast, and can spend time with my family in the evening. A work colleague suggested going to Copenhagen to study, but what was more important to me was limiting the impact on my family. Secondly, a doctorate is not marked as traditional exams or coursework. Essentially your body of work has to be accepted by the experts, so in this context the place became irrelevant. This may not be true for all qualifications, but it is something to take into account.

b. Organise

• Go through and request the timetable for the course that you decided on. Put all the assignment dates in your diary, and make a plan ahead of time that allows you to meet the deadlines. Strangely, 1 single man has dropped out the doctorate and 2 people have been late with assignments out of 9 people. I am not aware of their full circumstances, but what works for me, is the scheduling of assignments and their completion in advance. I cannot afford to wait until the last minute. I have to dedicate time to it regularly; no excuses.

I have had to push back as I have a full time job.  It was important to understand what is realistic, and prioritise.  In my case work took the priority and I extended my doctorate for another year, doing it all was not possible.  It was not about how fast I completed, but completing with a healthy family and healthy me.

6. Tools

• If you haven’t already you will need a dedicated machine just for you and your study, and I highly recommend an Ipad with a kindle app, or kindle. The ability to read anywhere and everywhere that you have a free moment means that you can maximise your research and analysis time, boosting your productivity.

Use Your Network

• Mummies are the most powerful and resourceful network. We all make choices and I know Mummies who are blissfully raising their children that were lawyers, copy writers, teachers, HR Directors, CEO’s and the list goes on. Reach out for help. I needed someone to proof read my research proposal. I stopped counting after 8 people stepped forward. The value they added was colossal, because they provided a second pair of eye’s to: grammar, clarity and even built on the process.

7. Do it in a way that makes you successful.

8. Family

• Check in with your family how it is working and if there anything that would help each other? Overall my family is so proud of me. There have been times where we have had to make sure that we both get a break.

Reality Check

• The good thing about studying later on in life is actually I am no longer an anal perfectionist. I work hard at it and do many drafts, but there is a point where I say ‘that assignment’ will have to be enough as I want to play with my son and daughter.

9. Passion (2)

• If you are doing a thesis make sure the topic is what you are passionate about. My topic is how to develop talent in children. When I was on maternity leave with my second child I was so engrossed in the subject that I would sit down to research, and then before I knew it, it was time to pick up my daughter from kindergarten.

Be clear what success looks like, and it is not what you think!

10. Outcome

• Be clear that this does not define you. It may help you to get to a goal but success does not come in the form of a job title, or degree. How you live, experience life and the difference you make to the people you meet is success. It could be as simple as you need a mental challenge, or you want to make a difference in a certain field. So if this helps you in how you live and experience your life then go for it.

The original article was actually published earlier on in my studies, to help and support other mothers.

There are two outcomes from my study:

  1. Research on adulthood success from childhood, to put it short parental attachment is statistically significant.
  2. What I did not have was automation of the crappy, pesky chores or the things that drain time.

What Companies Could Learn From School

What Companies Could Learn From School

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At school I used to get to the playground early “Play” British Bulldog (a childhood game in English Schools).  “Learn” by challenging concepts and applying techniques in lessons, before going home to watch Neighbours, do “Homework” and then hang out with friends. Play

My first boss in Switzerland said he wanted someone who delivered but also knew how to have fun.  There is a need to have fun, play and explore the environment, product, industry and people that we work with in order to grow.  Too often we get into work, turn our email on, only to see an extortionate amount of unopened messages, and embark on our day.  What if we did things differently?  What if we had activities that enabled exploration?  This could be as small as hanging out to have coffee together, playing cards, hackathons what is important is that the activity needs to be culturally relevant.

Now the obvious challenge is where would the time come from.  I have seen so much time being spent in organisations on things that are no longer needed, or non-value adding.   The challenge is to break the status quo, question their value and where they are not productive stop the task.   Not many organisations do this.  If we were to give ourselves more time back we could get into a more productive cycle that moves us away from myopic to macro thinking.  Secondly it does not have to be a liner activity, so it could happen at any time of the day.

Learn

At school we learnt across a variety of subjects, which bred entrepreneurship, innovation and development.  We too often put people into a Job Description.  I have many passions, and skill sets and not just for the one that I no work in.  There should be more sharing across functions, and jobs should be able to be multi faceted.  I would even go as far to say that your employees should be able to wear a customer, competitor and or CEO hat on regular sessions.  This would stimulate their brain on customer requirements, being competitive, thinking what could destroy the company and generate solutions.  This environment to create and challenge employees seems to be easier in start-ups, but there is a need to develop this way of thinking in more traditional organisations.  Google allow 20% of time for an employee to develop on a project of their choice, why is this a rare facet for a company?

Homework

This is not to take work home.  Past school age we have acquired responsibilities: children, families, hobbies and a life!  What homework does require is a passion to reflect. If employees are passionate about what they do, then have a mindset to reflect and think what can I do to improve it, which often can feed back into playtime.

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