1. The Reality is Unreal – we are bombarded with Reality TV, Pics and Snippets via social media that people have actually often staged to look their best. These statuses and glimpses into the made-up reality are just a glimpse of someone’s life that they are happy to share. Do not get caught up in the life that someone else is portraying and sharing. What is truly important for you to experience and focus on that? 2. Comparison of Apples versus Oranges – The comparison of you to a friend, or stranger is a false start. Every person has a different environment in which they live and different circumstances to deal with. The key is to find what works for you personally and not to compare.
3. Gratitude – gratitude for what we have focuses us on the reality of what we have. At the very least we are still breathing. This gratitude can be a way to focus on the things that we have, and that we can affect.
4. The power of intention – this is a powerful tool, however, I have seen it cause behaviour and actions that lead to more negative consequences. Controversially I have to say I have found that there is a balance. The ‘Gita’ talks about how not to focus too much on future desires as it makes us subject to highs and lows, the spiral of excitement and disappointment. This to me indicates that balance is needed. There is a clear intention but there is also realism about what you can affect and change. The question always is what is stopping me? Is it possible to remove barriers? Ultimately other courses of action may have been the right ones to take. Be prepared to listen and understand the situation and be open to the here and now, and adjust what would be the right way to move forward.