How do we better manage our energy in an increasingly busy and hectic world. There are more rules and regulations in our society which means we have to complete taxes, forms, censuses. Technology has advanced and enhanced our lives in so many ways, and at the same time we increasingly have more email and messages to deal with. Kids are great (I Love Mine), and we stretch our time between kids, family and friends. These are just some of the challenges of modern day life. So what do we do:
1. De - Clutter
I am reading a lot currently on mindfulness. It interests me, but intrigues me as there is never just a one size fits all. For some people it may be best to focus on one thing and do it well, for others it may be two or three. My number is five if I ever take on more than five it does not work. My five are : Husband, Children, Work whatifpa, Learning (Doctorate) and Yoga. Sometimes people do amazing things multi-tasking. This may be an unpopular thought in the current trend of mindfulness. However, just look at the true story of Erin Brockovich she took on a Goliath of a lawsuit. Yes she went through challenges as she was stretched between her children, her partner and her career; but what a difference she made!
I had to remove other things from my life because they over zapped my energy. So sit down and write a list of everything that you do, and include things like your friends or your husband if you are married; after all they are important. Then think about what is really important to you. What ever is not important drop it. It is not a failure to lose it, and in fact can turn into a positive. When I dropped being Netball captain I had done my turn for 2 years, and moving on left space for another person to breath their ideas and more energy into what is now a flourishing club. Refine your list until you have what you feel is balance.
2. Your World
Do not live in constant comparison to anyone else. This is a waste of energy. It does not matter what anyone else does, says or thinks. This should not be mistaken for arrogance, but the point is if people are looking for constant gratification from others it only zaps energy. Everyone has flaws, issues and problems. Just deal with what you can affect.
I practice yoga regularly because of it's restorative properties. There is no best form of exercise. The secret is to pick something that you love and want to do without having to battle to build up motivation to practice. I love Tony Sanchez's Yoga because with 2 children I can do it from home, and fit it around my busy schedule.
Speak to people that can be your friends, or your family if you are feeling affected by an issue. Bottling up worries or concerns can drain you.
Outsource chores like cleaning or gardening if you can, so you have the energy to do the things you love.
6. Utilise Technology
Utilise technology to simplify your life, get things done quickly and surround yourself with the people who give you energy. For example, I love online shopping as it reduces the time I have to spend going around the shops and takes minutes compared to hours. Long gone are the days when I would spend the whole day "down town shopping." Now I am happy to be in a nice pub garden where I can do the 11.00am feed for my son, and my daughter can run around playing. When I do have to go to the shops on the weekend the baby sick, inadequate changing facilities and the difficulty of actually trying clothes on with a toddler is not something that I miss.