After our second child we also moved house to a new area and lost our trusted babysitter. There was also a period of adjustment to be able to look after two children. The re-initiation of nappies, bottle feeding and weaning with time for ourselves after the kids went to bed at eight. It would have been all too easy to just carry on in that direction.
I decided to get help and that meant that we could bring back a permanent date night, and what a difference it made. It has given us the opportunity to reconnect regularly, with the ability for it to either be just the two of us, or meet and reconnect with friends. Of course we connect on a daily basis, but the depth of connection is different when you are focused on the kids asking them about their day at kindergarten, weaning our second child which involves 40% of the food being dropped on the floor, playing puzzles, bath time and bed. By the time parent time arrives at 20.00pm we cuddle up and chill. Friday nights is different we have the energy to debate topics like when we were dating from politics, religion, economics, the arts to social issues. We have the chance to laugh and joke from an adult perspective. We have the chance to understand how each other’s lives are going, and help and adjust for each other. We also get to do the things we love eating out, the cinema and being with friends.
While this may only be a few hours a week to some, the date night is what ensures our world fits together.
My biggest recommendation is to make time to reconnect.