Getting out the door as a working mother has been one of those challenges I have improved in, but I would still like to nail. That said my experiences don’t seem to be as tiresome, as my friends so I thought that I would share my experiences. My daughter is 3 and my son 1.
- What it means for them
If I am in a rush with my daughter and son it is for a reason. Sometimes I can bike with them to Krippe (Kindergarden), but others I may need to get a train into the city. I decided to explain to them both why we need to hurry up, and what it means to them. My days are typically loaded to be early, so I have quality time with them in the afternoon. So I ask them both if they like it when Mummy plays with them after Krippe, and we have lots of time together. The obvious answer is 'yes' and I explain that’s because we get up early and get to Krippe whilst I go to work. If we don’t leave now Mummy may not be able to do that.
My daughter continually utters the words “I’ll do it myself,” will at times want me to out on her shoes and jacket, as she sees me do it for her brother. I then question her asking are you a big girl, and proudly compliment her that she can do that herself, as she is no longer a baby. She then shows me that she can.
There are things that she wants to take to Krippe or treats of raisins, so when she is good she gets raisins to take with her.
- Friendship and Fun
Both love the Krippe and look forward to their day, so I tend to talk about whether she is looking forward to playing with her best friends (she has two). This speeds up her motivation to get there and play.
- Changing Pace
Overall I try to change the pace, so as not to always rush them. Albeit we need to get out of the door early in the morning and we only get to briefly say hello to the chickens, and sheep in the morning. On the way back from Krippe we are walking, laughing and noticing everything that the seasons have to offer: picking acorns, the wild flowers, testing whether things sink or float in the stream. This appreciation for time seems to work so that they know when I say we have to go it is for a reason, but at the same time we appreciate the stiller moments.
I by no means have things perfect, and sometime that run to catch the train certainly provides me with extra fuel cells on my Nike Fuel band!