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The day I gave birth my life changed for ever, and in so many ways. One thing that changed is 'me time' and the rarity of even being able to go for pee myself. The girl that was training for yoga every day in a great studio, and would join classes faded away. However, it was when I needed it most. I had a new community of an enlarged family and other mothers, but that feeling I got after a class, that time I gave to myself and health would never be the same.
I had a choice I could either keep on trying to fit into the life I had, or ask the question what is stopping you. The truth was that travelling by train and tram for 45 minutes to the studio there and back, completing a 90 minute class, showering and wait time would cost me 200 minutes. What was stopping me was that my life no longer had 200 minutes. Don't get me wrong I would not trade the life I have the way I spend 200 minutes now is packed full of getting s*** done, and so much laughter, smiles and craziness with the family. It just took time to have a new lifestyle.
One of the things that has helped is health and fitness @home. My Mum used to come in and teach the home economics, so a to of the health is a real passion for food which has evolved with time sensitive recipes for being a busy mother working. For fitness I fell in love with my home practice, and have perused all the top 14 of the best @home fitness. As I did I homed into 3 questions:
How to Sustain Fitness After Having Children?
1. When can I make time - even if it's 5 minutes? I get up early and can make 30 to 60 minutes before the kids are up. If I have a crazy day I can fit in 5. 2. What am I passionate about to sustain 'choice' ? For me it's Yoga and Running. I focus on the feeling after it motivates me, I know how I am going to feel even if I just do Pranayama and Sun Salutation. 3. Where can I find it on demand to fit into my schedule? I need on demand. I can't be fixed to schedules because I work, and travel. So as well as a home practice I substitute with Cody, Yogadownload (great as I can download) and Peloton (my hubby and I used to love spinning but we cannot get to a class and it is something we can do together or on a crappy day outside ;)).
The 14 of the best @home on demand fitness cannot be ranked because the answers to 1 to 3 will vary. The key is to understand what matters to you, so we reviewed: cost, access, availability, choice, schedules and additional add on's available to help other women who want to get fit, but whose life no longer fits with their old life.
They are to fit you and your life now.
Links to all 14
If Work Life Balance - 'balance' is defined as "an even distribution of weight enabling someone or something to remain upright and steady" then frankly there is no such thing. It is a myth. A Mother Working Balance is "dividing yourself between multiple things, with unequal distribution" because the focus is #1 Mother and #2 Life. That's our real life every day. [video width="854" height="480" mp4="http://www.whatifihadapa.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/powtoon-fqCTXknReBA.mp4"][/video]
I was not so bold as to include highly effective in the title, because I am one of those parents who admits I do not have all the answers. That said these habits make my life significantly easier. When I first read Stephen Covey’s 7 habits many years ago, it was great my life was all about work. I was a go getting graduate who was, and still is proactive, I had the end in mind, put myself in the other person’s shoes to understand first, thought to win and all the rest.
What life has taught me is that life is a lot more than work and to be effective I need 7 other habits. I am not one person in work and another at home, and my work and life merges.
1. Get Up Early
I get up at 5.30 – 6.00 so that I can get ready before the kids, and practice yoga. This gives me energy, focus and health to complete the day.
2. Put my Health First
Although, the decisions are family first, if a person doesn’t have their health they cannot be there for the family. It’s important to concentrate on insuring happiness and health.
3. Put the Family at the Forefront of Decisions
Whether a person is working or not and running a family, there are always those decisions that need to be made. Every household is different, and the key is it has to work for the household. Think win-win does not necessarily come into it. It may not be possible for both people to progress in their career. One person may have to take a step back as the other takes a step forward to make sure that the overall family balance is a happy one.
4. Keep a Little You
It’s important to keep a little you. I worked 100% with my first daughter, and when my son came my office closed. However, I am still completing my doctorate and hope to go back to work fulltime in a family friendly company. I have other friends that still keep up their interests and or talents: writing, running, yoga and even find a channel to change careers.
5. Multi Task
At nursery or school pick up time everything happens at once from feed, play, bath and bed. The ability to multi task and not get stressed is essential.
6. Understand Food
It’s not necessary to be a cooking goddess, but the ability to pull together a nutritious meal in 15 minutes is needed. It keeps the family healthy, and understanding food means that there is less food to waste, as well as saving money. The left overs can be reused into a left over pie, slightly old fruit can be chucked into a smoothie or crumble, and fish can be gutted and scraped to make fish cakes from scratch for a economical but nutritious meal.
7. Story Teller
Language is a key enabler to communication, to learn more. The capability to bring ‘Tinkerbell,’ ‘The Gruffalo’ and ‘What the Ladybird Heard’ to life is integral to an important life skill.
8. Talent Finder and Grower
The ability to tune into what children love and support them in it even if that means hovering up billions of bits of playdoh, constantly being hands deep in paint and using architecture skills to build a Wendy house from boxes, paint and felt.
There seems to be too much left to teachers in schools. There is still a role to play at home not just reading, maths and understating the world but also values and behaviour.
10. Adaptable and Learn
The truth is mothers have to adapt to situations all the time, and may even create new habits. A mother makes mistakes, giggles sometimes because if they don’t find it funny they may just cry. The important thing is they learn from it, and realise they are not perfect and will never be. A mother may have to create a new habit to accommodate the needs of their child, because every child is different; but special.
- First congrats. The put downs in the press of exams getting easier have been happening since the beginning of time. You have studied hard, and taken the higher education test that UK society has chosen.
- You have taken the test, but the real test is what do you do with it? You could have passed with A*'s or failed. What do you love? What do you want to do? Then go and pursue it; with no fear. Your pursuit could have various paths, but you define your own path.
- Failure. Even if you did not fail your A’level’s. You will fail at things through out life. It is how you deal with failure that is the strongest learning we have as human beings. The focus and change that can come at times of failure and instability is very powerful.
- An result (exam) is often how we blindly view life. I have fallen into the trap in the past of seeing succcess as my eminance in my career. They are not the same thing. Idenitfy what is important to you, and build your life around that. In the end, all we have left are our memories, so we need to make great ones with the people that count.
- What we leave behind is a legacy of impressions on people’s lives. That person you said something to on the train, at school, in the pub or treated a certain way at work. You influenced their life in some unknown way. It would of course be too much energy to think about what we should say, do and how we should treat every individual. What we can do, is define our character and our values to understand how we want to approach life. So that when we connect with each other, and make impressions, we leave the best positve and most powerful impression, but yet it is still unknown.