- You recognise how you really feel
- You recognise how your child really feels (putting your self in their shoes)
- You acknowledge the two
- You make an authentic response in acknowledgement to address the feelings, and increase the parental attachment bond
There were 8 different parents, and every one in there acknowledgement at some point had time creep in as a factor.
We discussed and delved into the example of their 2 year old son screaming, shouting and saying he hates the time to get ready, from scrubbing his teeth and being ready to go to the nursery (kita).
Identify with own feelings:
The mother explained that she felt frustrated and needed to get to work (TIME).
Identify with the child’s feelings:
When she put herself in the shoes of the child, he wants to do it himself. However, both the father and mother expressed that they were worried about the teeth not being brushed properly. The father explained that he rewards chocolates if his son behaves and explains he can only have the chocolates if his teeth are clean.
Hug and share each others feelings.
They realised that the solution does not address the real issue. The anger from the child is because he wants to do it himself, and there is fear from the parents that he will not do it properly. The authentic response they created was to speak with him and explain that he will do it himself, and that Mummy and Daddy will show him how to do it and check after, where they may just need to get him to redo some areas or help. The real issue was anger caused by a wish for more independence, and the time pressure that they felt and the worry of incompleteness was creating a repetitive issue every morning.
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